Why Didn't Anyone Tell Me???

So...I went to Subway yesterday (inside a Walmart), and while listening to some girls behind me talk about dating, I thought to myself...why didn't I ever think of that??? So, here goes. Girl #1 is talking about who knows what. The guy she likes doesn't like her back, she's been pursuing him, he's not responding, yeah yeah yeah, we've all been there, right??? So, girl #2 starts to talk. She's telling this story about the guy she's dating. He's great, he's wonderful, she loves him, the whole she-bang. But, when they talk about "the relationship", he says, "I love you, and I love spending time with you, but I'm not thinking about marrying you anytime soon". She says ok, that's cool. But she wants to know where this is headed, and he says he'll think about it. So...instead of sending him on his merry way after "the talk", and allowing him to think about things and figure it out (which is what I would think to do)...nope! Not at all! He stays the night, they sleep together, and in the morning she says, "so...have you figured things out yet?" I've been doing it all wrong! Apparently you don't do what I've been doing! You let him tell you he doesn't even think about marrying you at that moment, sleep with him, and then hope that by doing that, he'll have the answer that he wants to be with you and marry you. Makes perfect sense, right??? Right....

the center of life

you can't live with out it of course. it always seems to become the center of most things. firesides, social events, linger longers, or just even the movies, or when you hang out with people. FOOD is like a necessity of almost every aspect of life.

so when it comes to dating, eating in front of boys always seems to be one of those situations that you think twice. what do you order? you go to a place you really really like, and you want the full meal, with a big sandwich (that probably could feed two, but lets be honest it is so good that you want to eat it yourself), a side of fries (bottomless), and coleslaw, and of course you need a good diet coke to take of the edge of the first date.

but then you think about who is sitting across from you; mr. beautiful. what would he think if you ate the entire plate of food? so... the girl opts to eat a salad.

and dessert.... OF COURSE, you are starving. a "love it" size from coldstone ice cream would be right up your alley, but again, you gotta be modest. i'll take a kids size with one mix in. at the end of the night we all know, that we'll go home and scrounge for something to eat.

WHY? why do we do this to ourselves? i saw a girl take an entire pack of starburst, and down every last piece in a 2 minutes flat. but you know if mr. beautiful were sitting next to her she totally would have rationed her pack of starburst over several hours, or at least half of the pack, and the down the rest in less than 45 seconds.

i would love to say that i love food to much that mr. beautiful wouldn't interupt my eating habits, but i think it is part of being a girl. LAME!

food is good, appreciate it! don't be ashamed of eating. i figure the bigger the girl, means that she either cooks good or knows what the meaning of good food is. therefore, mr. beautiful will know he won't be eating ramen noodles for eternity!

don't be ashamed of ordering what you want, eat it!

Braids galore!

So, I've recently become a huge fan of the braiding of the bangs. It's something simple, takes just a few minutes, and just adds that cute little feminine touch to your hair! I think I don't go a day without seeing some girl with it in their hair now, and I have to admit, atleast 3 days of the week I, too have one in my hair! Here's a few examples!

exception or rule

so there is this very interesting book/movie.

as i watched and read this movie/book, so many scenes or situations hit pretty close to home. more closely that i think most people realize.

for example:
“I had this guy leave me a voice mail at work, so I called him at home, and then he emailed me to my BlackBerry, and so I texted to his cell, and now you just have to go around checking all these different portals just to get rejected by seven different technologies. It’s exhausting.”

HOW TRUE! back in the day it was exciting to either run to the mail box or to see if the red light flashed on the answering machine. but now, we get online to check email, check facebook, check every aspect of facebook, or if there have been any texts.. etc, etc. HOW TRUE!

here is another quote:

"Girls are taught a lot of stuff growing up. If a guy punches you he likes you. Never try to trim your own bangs and someday you will meet a wonderful guy and get your very own happy ending. Every movie we see, Every story we're told implores us to wait for it, the third act twist, the unexpected declaration of love, the exception to the rule. But sometimes we're so focused on finding our happy ending we don't learn how to read the signs."

are we the exception or the RULE? so often, i believe that i feel that i am the exception. that it'll be different with me. that i am the exception. but in reality.. i am just the rule!

but then i think.. is it worth it? always being the rule... and waddaya know.. here your answer.. through quote 3:

"I may dissect each little thing and put myself out there so much but at least that means that I still care. Oh! You've think you won because women are expendable to you. You may not get hurt or make an ass of yourself that way but you don't fall in love that way either. You have not won. You're alone. I may do a lot of stupid crap but I'm still a lot closer to love than you are. "

i guess it all comes down to : you reap what you sow. am i willing to allow myself to become the exception. should i be the exception? is it possible?

it seems so complicated at times. but i just hope that when it comes down to it.. that it'll work out. and that my life will end up being a good typical romance movie. oh wait, lets be honest, it'll probably be a romance COMEDY. but its possible right?

Body condom, what???

Here's one for ya. I knew this person who had gotten engaged, and they were very "excited" about the wedding, if you know what I mean. They had gotten pretty close, maybe a little too close, and they just loved each other so much, that they needed to take precautions. I think you're all getting my drift. So...what is the most logical thing they could've done? Apparently it was going out and buying a leotard for her, to protect them from doing anything! Haha. The best part about it, is they got so excited about their idea that they ran to the store together, to find the perfect leotard. And the "logical" explanation behind this was that if there ever started to be any wandering hands, he would feel the leotard, feel stupid, and that would stop them from doing anything they shouldn't. Wow...I was beside myself when I heard that. And...I took it upon myself to call it the "body condom". Any other names you guys could come up with for this one??

are there gentleman?

i think it'd be safe to say that every girl dreams of a guy that is gentleman, in one way or another. but do you think that chivalry has disappeared ? or is it still around?

the other day i say a lady, who was in her mid thirties, take a HUGE dive off the curb. she was on her cell phone and in heels. but in seconds, her cell phone and portfolio went the other way. luckily her heel didn't break! but as she was picking herself up, and reassuring her friend on the phone that she was ok, after her doozie, this young man, mid to late twenties approached her and asked if she was ok or needed any help.

i would say a little late, but at the same time i was very impressed! yeah he may have been late but he asked! that says a lot!

i am not one to have a guy open my door, while i am in the car, but i think it says something when he holds the door open, or when a guy stands up for the women who leave, or when they take the initiative in any situation.

Second to None!!!

So tell me what any of you would've done differently in this situation, or if it was valid...

You like a boy. You guys have been hanging out, and also going on some dates for the past few months. It hasn't progressed to a serious relationship, but everyone pretty much knows you guys are into each other. He still hangs out with an ex something or other from a city 30 minutes away. Ok, cool...he doesn't owe you anything, you guys aren't anything official. However, recently he has been talking to you almost every day, going to all church activities with you, and still acting completely fine and flirty when people in the ward make comments about you two, including the bishopric. So, the ward is going to...lets say a rodeo this upcoming weekend. Last week, he asks you if you're going to the rodeo, and when you reply "yeah", he says, "cool! I'll go!". Then his sister is sitting there and you two together are trying to convince her to go with you guys. So...that sounds like you guys are going to go together right???....

Lets continue with the story...

The week goes by, and things are still fine. He had gone to another ward gathering with you, walked you home, everything is great! You're finally feeling confident enough to talk to him about where this is headed. The inevitable DTR. and you really feel it necessary to talk to him, because he did go hang out with "the ex" again. So, you guys hang out, it's great again. Then comes another Sunday...

Everyone is getting their tickets for the rodeo, things are hunky-dory. However...come to find out, someone accidentally gave your rodeo ticket away. You find out the boy has an extra ticket. Why does he have an extra ticket you ask?? Apparently the bishopric has told him to buy an extra ticket so that he can take someone. He hesitantly tells you you can have his extra ticket. But you're no dummy! "were you going to take someone" you ask. He sits there with a stupid look on his face, and finally replies, "uh...no". "Too long of a hesitation buddy, I know you were planning on taking someone else" Some more conversations go on, and you're pretty irritated, You're not being your normal "charming" self if you will. After a few snippy remarks, he once again says you can have his extra ticket.

"Uh, you had someone specific in mind that you were going to invite, right?" "Yeah..." he says, and then here it comes ladies, he says, "...but I'll take you now" Excuse me??? You'll take me NOW??? Sorry buddy, that's not how it works!!! So you repley, "No thanks...I am NOT going with you. You do NOT want to go with me...you do NOT want to take me. You don't worry about me. I'll figure out how to get my own ticket, and you just ask whoever it was you had in mind". Seriously people??? What would you have done? First of all...what happened to him asking you if you were going to the rodeo last week, and then trying to convince his sister to go with you guys? Second...how embarrassing/awkward would that have been. You show up to the rodeo thinking you're going to be hanging out with him, and he shows up with another girl! Ladies...You are second to none!!! You remember what you're worth. You do not need to convince anyone that you're worth liking, or that you're cool enough. You remember that you ARE worth it, and you ARE cool, and you my friend are second to none!!!