social boundaries

it has been a long long time! i don't think it is for a lack of things to say, but really a grand decision of what is qualified to go on the blog.

but i have come to realize a couple of things when it comes to boy/girl socializing and dating. i don't know if it is just a type of people or what.....

we were in a social setting of boys and girls. as a group of single girls, we were getting to know one another. and then suddenly there was a girl that asked about how this guys line of work. ok typical. then did you get your degree to do that? ok, still ok grounds. then the bomb... how much do you make?

SOCIAL BOUNDARIES????

ok scenario two. again in a social setting to get to know other people. specifically a bon fire. a lot of people didn't know each other. so i believe the purpose of these gatherings are to meet new people. but again, there were several people who just sat there and didn't say anything. i don't understand? lets get over ourselves and meet people!

and i guess the last example i saw lately was restaurant etiquette. i don't know if this is social boundaries, but i think it is most definitely related. i think just the way people act at a nicer restaurant (ie... not applebees). just the constant sigh because of the high priced plates. or the dumping of the butter onto the table in order to use the dish to eat off of. i don't know what it was, it is just so interesting to me.

i guess we were all raised differently, but at the least, you think we'd know our social boundaries!

i think some people get to tied up with trying to impress the opposite sex, that they forget their social boundaries.

could it help?

is dating really a game? i think it kinda is. oh till the day that the game is over.

but until then.. maybe this handy dandy worksheet will help us out!

Why Didn't Anyone Tell Me???

So...I went to Subway yesterday (inside a Walmart), and while listening to some girls behind me talk about dating, I thought to myself...why didn't I ever think of that??? So, here goes. Girl #1 is talking about who knows what. The guy she likes doesn't like her back, she's been pursuing him, he's not responding, yeah yeah yeah, we've all been there, right??? So, girl #2 starts to talk. She's telling this story about the guy she's dating. He's great, he's wonderful, she loves him, the whole she-bang. But, when they talk about "the relationship", he says, "I love you, and I love spending time with you, but I'm not thinking about marrying you anytime soon". She says ok, that's cool. But she wants to know where this is headed, and he says he'll think about it. So...instead of sending him on his merry way after "the talk", and allowing him to think about things and figure it out (which is what I would think to do)...nope! Not at all! He stays the night, they sleep together, and in the morning she says, "so...have you figured things out yet?" I've been doing it all wrong! Apparently you don't do what I've been doing! You let him tell you he doesn't even think about marrying you at that moment, sleep with him, and then hope that by doing that, he'll have the answer that he wants to be with you and marry you. Makes perfect sense, right??? Right....

the center of life

you can't live with out it of course. it always seems to become the center of most things. firesides, social events, linger longers, or just even the movies, or when you hang out with people. FOOD is like a necessity of almost every aspect of life.

so when it comes to dating, eating in front of boys always seems to be one of those situations that you think twice. what do you order? you go to a place you really really like, and you want the full meal, with a big sandwich (that probably could feed two, but lets be honest it is so good that you want to eat it yourself), a side of fries (bottomless), and coleslaw, and of course you need a good diet coke to take of the edge of the first date.

but then you think about who is sitting across from you; mr. beautiful. what would he think if you ate the entire plate of food? so... the girl opts to eat a salad.

and dessert.... OF COURSE, you are starving. a "love it" size from coldstone ice cream would be right up your alley, but again, you gotta be modest. i'll take a kids size with one mix in. at the end of the night we all know, that we'll go home and scrounge for something to eat.

WHY? why do we do this to ourselves? i saw a girl take an entire pack of starburst, and down every last piece in a 2 minutes flat. but you know if mr. beautiful were sitting next to her she totally would have rationed her pack of starburst over several hours, or at least half of the pack, and the down the rest in less than 45 seconds.

i would love to say that i love food to much that mr. beautiful wouldn't interupt my eating habits, but i think it is part of being a girl. LAME!

food is good, appreciate it! don't be ashamed of eating. i figure the bigger the girl, means that she either cooks good or knows what the meaning of good food is. therefore, mr. beautiful will know he won't be eating ramen noodles for eternity!

don't be ashamed of ordering what you want, eat it!

Braids galore!

So, I've recently become a huge fan of the braiding of the bangs. It's something simple, takes just a few minutes, and just adds that cute little feminine touch to your hair! I think I don't go a day without seeing some girl with it in their hair now, and I have to admit, atleast 3 days of the week I, too have one in my hair! Here's a few examples!

exception or rule

so there is this very interesting book/movie.

as i watched and read this movie/book, so many scenes or situations hit pretty close to home. more closely that i think most people realize.

for example:
“I had this guy leave me a voice mail at work, so I called him at home, and then he emailed me to my BlackBerry, and so I texted to his cell, and now you just have to go around checking all these different portals just to get rejected by seven different technologies. It’s exhausting.”

HOW TRUE! back in the day it was exciting to either run to the mail box or to see if the red light flashed on the answering machine. but now, we get online to check email, check facebook, check every aspect of facebook, or if there have been any texts.. etc, etc. HOW TRUE!

here is another quote:

"Girls are taught a lot of stuff growing up. If a guy punches you he likes you. Never try to trim your own bangs and someday you will meet a wonderful guy and get your very own happy ending. Every movie we see, Every story we're told implores us to wait for it, the third act twist, the unexpected declaration of love, the exception to the rule. But sometimes we're so focused on finding our happy ending we don't learn how to read the signs."

are we the exception or the RULE? so often, i believe that i feel that i am the exception. that it'll be different with me. that i am the exception. but in reality.. i am just the rule!

but then i think.. is it worth it? always being the rule... and waddaya know.. here your answer.. through quote 3:

"I may dissect each little thing and put myself out there so much but at least that means that I still care. Oh! You've think you won because women are expendable to you. You may not get hurt or make an ass of yourself that way but you don't fall in love that way either. You have not won. You're alone. I may do a lot of stupid crap but I'm still a lot closer to love than you are. "

i guess it all comes down to : you reap what you sow. am i willing to allow myself to become the exception. should i be the exception? is it possible?

it seems so complicated at times. but i just hope that when it comes down to it.. that it'll work out. and that my life will end up being a good typical romance movie. oh wait, lets be honest, it'll probably be a romance COMEDY. but its possible right?

Body condom, what???

Here's one for ya. I knew this person who had gotten engaged, and they were very "excited" about the wedding, if you know what I mean. They had gotten pretty close, maybe a little too close, and they just loved each other so much, that they needed to take precautions. I think you're all getting my drift. So...what is the most logical thing they could've done? Apparently it was going out and buying a leotard for her, to protect them from doing anything! Haha. The best part about it, is they got so excited about their idea that they ran to the store together, to find the perfect leotard. And the "logical" explanation behind this was that if there ever started to be any wandering hands, he would feel the leotard, feel stupid, and that would stop them from doing anything they shouldn't. Wow...I was beside myself when I heard that. And...I took it upon myself to call it the "body condom". Any other names you guys could come up with for this one??

are there gentleman?

i think it'd be safe to say that every girl dreams of a guy that is gentleman, in one way or another. but do you think that chivalry has disappeared ? or is it still around?

the other day i say a lady, who was in her mid thirties, take a HUGE dive off the curb. she was on her cell phone and in heels. but in seconds, her cell phone and portfolio went the other way. luckily her heel didn't break! but as she was picking herself up, and reassuring her friend on the phone that she was ok, after her doozie, this young man, mid to late twenties approached her and asked if she was ok or needed any help.

i would say a little late, but at the same time i was very impressed! yeah he may have been late but he asked! that says a lot!

i am not one to have a guy open my door, while i am in the car, but i think it says something when he holds the door open, or when a guy stands up for the women who leave, or when they take the initiative in any situation.

Second to None!!!

So tell me what any of you would've done differently in this situation, or if it was valid...

You like a boy. You guys have been hanging out, and also going on some dates for the past few months. It hasn't progressed to a serious relationship, but everyone pretty much knows you guys are into each other. He still hangs out with an ex something or other from a city 30 minutes away. Ok, cool...he doesn't owe you anything, you guys aren't anything official. However, recently he has been talking to you almost every day, going to all church activities with you, and still acting completely fine and flirty when people in the ward make comments about you two, including the bishopric. So, the ward is going to...lets say a rodeo this upcoming weekend. Last week, he asks you if you're going to the rodeo, and when you reply "yeah", he says, "cool! I'll go!". Then his sister is sitting there and you two together are trying to convince her to go with you guys. So...that sounds like you guys are going to go together right???....

Lets continue with the story...

The week goes by, and things are still fine. He had gone to another ward gathering with you, walked you home, everything is great! You're finally feeling confident enough to talk to him about where this is headed. The inevitable DTR. and you really feel it necessary to talk to him, because he did go hang out with "the ex" again. So, you guys hang out, it's great again. Then comes another Sunday...

Everyone is getting their tickets for the rodeo, things are hunky-dory. However...come to find out, someone accidentally gave your rodeo ticket away. You find out the boy has an extra ticket. Why does he have an extra ticket you ask?? Apparently the bishopric has told him to buy an extra ticket so that he can take someone. He hesitantly tells you you can have his extra ticket. But you're no dummy! "were you going to take someone" you ask. He sits there with a stupid look on his face, and finally replies, "uh...no". "Too long of a hesitation buddy, I know you were planning on taking someone else" Some more conversations go on, and you're pretty irritated, You're not being your normal "charming" self if you will. After a few snippy remarks, he once again says you can have his extra ticket.

"Uh, you had someone specific in mind that you were going to invite, right?" "Yeah..." he says, and then here it comes ladies, he says, "...but I'll take you now" Excuse me??? You'll take me NOW??? Sorry buddy, that's not how it works!!! So you repley, "No thanks...I am NOT going with you. You do NOT want to go with me...you do NOT want to take me. You don't worry about me. I'll figure out how to get my own ticket, and you just ask whoever it was you had in mind". Seriously people??? What would you have done? First of all...what happened to him asking you if you were going to the rodeo last week, and then trying to convince his sister to go with you guys? Second...how embarrassing/awkward would that have been. You show up to the rodeo thinking you're going to be hanging out with him, and he shows up with another girl! Ladies...You are second to none!!! You remember what you're worth. You do not need to convince anyone that you're worth liking, or that you're cool enough. You remember that you ARE worth it, and you ARE cool, and you my friend are second to none!!!

tell me this doesn't bring a smile to your face!

just watch, enjoy, and if you don't smile, chuckle, snicker, or laugh out loud, then i'll dedicate a post to the topic of your liking!

AND

A LITTLE POETRY

A heart is not a play thing,
a heart is not a toy,
but if you want it broken,
Just give it to a boy.

Boys they like to play with things
To see what makes them run,
But when it comes to kissing,
They do it just for fun.

Boys never give their hearts away.
They play us girls for fools,
They wait until we give our hearts,
And then they play it cool


You will wonder where he is at night,
You will wonder if he's true,
One moment you will be happy,
One moment you will be blue.

If you get a chance to see him
Your heart begins to dance
Your life revolves around him,
There's nothing like romance.

And then it starts to happen,
You worry day and night
You see, my friend, you're losing him
It never turns out right.


Boys are great, though immature
The price you pay is high,
He may seem sweet and gorgeous
But remember, he's a guy.

Don't fall in love with just a boy
That takes alot of nerve.
You see, my friend, you need a man
To get what you deserve.

So when you think that you're in love,
Be careful if you can
Before you give your heart away
Make sure that he's a man.

Trapper Keeper Anyone???

ok...so i was recently reminded about the Trapper Keeper from a friend of mine. it brought back a whirlwind of memories! i totally remember the velcro, and hearing it, that's when you knew it was high class. it seems like only the "cool" kids had a trapper keeper. i don't think i ever had one...sad. and in keeping with the "flashback" memories from the last post, i figured this was appropriate. then in a conversation with another friend, we wondered, why IS it called a Trapper Keeper??? Well, thank you Wikipedia!!! Here is our answer! Drum roll please......

Trapper Keeper

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For the South Park episode, see Trapper Keeper (South Park).

Trapper Keeper is a brand of loose-leaf binder created by Mead. Popular with students in the United States and parts of Latin America from the 1970s to the 1990s, it featured sliding plastic rings (instead of standard snap-closed metal binder rings), folders and pockets to keep schoolwork and papers, and a wraparound flap with a Velcro closure (originally a metal snap closure).

Trapper Keepers usually had a theme, such as a cartoon, television show, or video game (e.g., Sonic the Hedgehog). Between 1988 and 1995, "Designer Series" Trapper Keepers featured abstract designs and later computer-generated images.

The binder got its name because it was sold in combination with pocket folders designed by Mead called "Trappers". Trappers were different from other pocket folders in that the pockets' three sides connected with the bottom, outside edge, and top (as opposed to the bottom, outside edge, and spine of most pocket folders). This design prevented papers from falling out of the Trapper's pockets when it was closed. Trappers were three-hole punched so that they could be put in any notebook, including Trapper Keeper.

In 2007, a new version of Trapper Keeper featured a magnetic closure in place of the Velcro closure, a customizable front cover, and binder dividers instead of Trapper folders.

lets play

ok, so lets play a game. i love music! so lets take a blast to the past.

click on the following links. close your eyes, and listen. what does the linked song remind you of, or what comes to your mind? Or what is your reaction to the linked song.

please leave your comments!

acronym = band name
free billy
in style height boosters
red octagon
high school friday nights
miami fun
the first jojo
jesse casapalous

if you got other ones.. that are good memories.. please tell!

is that necessary?

every week at singles ward, i can be guaranteed (usually) that i can walk away with a good story, or some sort of absurd thing that was done during the three hours that i am amongst these young, attention seeking, adults.

as the new girl, i was first presented with this situation:
a done up girl...making it known as she looked into the sacrament hall, that she was looking for "her friend Brian". two things... 1.) she IS friends with a boy and 2.) his name is brian so back off!
great! nice to meet you as well....yes i am new here, and no worries i won't even LOOK at brian!

finally entered in sacrament meeting! but of course, even though church begins at 2 pm... people still walk in late. but no worries, if you want to be noticed you don't even need to make your strut to the front pews cause i think that half of the congregation looks back as they hear the door open or close. why? oh right, because they either want to know what they have to work with for the next three hours, or who is skipping out of church early.

oh, that is just hour 1....hour two, sunday school.
if you are a return missionary does that make you better than everyone? or is it necessary to announce that you are an rm.. like you know the doctors.. " Hello jimmy... i am Dr. Shepard..." some rm's feel the need to announce it.. " Hi i have a question... i mean i am a return missionary, but i have a question."

and then topper.. a room full of girls! we're talking like 40 girls...young adult women. but at times i felt like i was in young womens!

during announcements, and really, in the middle of an announcement for the temple. a girl felt that her announcement was VERY important!

*now if you can imagine this highly done up girl, who did in fact sit next to 'brian's friend', with a voice that you might associate with a member of mean girls, or maybe a ditzy girl in high school, or even legally blonde (minus the law school part)... ok that is this girl.

so she proceeds to say in her delicate voice 'so... this saturday, well, ITS MY BIRHTDAY PARTY, and you are all invited!!'
oh great! that is awesome! i was just invited to cher's birthday party (from the movie clueless) ! (ps.. there is going to be a jet ski, but you have to pay to ride it, and yes she said that)

oh singles ward.. i love it. now don't get me wrong. i am not trying to say i am better then everyone in this ward, or that i am cooler than ms. cher, nor am i friends with people cooler than brian, but i just am astonished with what people really do, and wonder if this is all really appropriate or necessary.

hit me with your 7 digits

how does one go about asking for the opposite gender's number...well some people have NO SHAME!

just last sunday in my great experience with the singles ward, i watched the same guy get two girls' magical digits in a matter of 10 minutes. and really not in a sly way. in the middle of announcement, he slyly stated... "if i get their late, or if i get lost, can i call you? what's your number". sure i guess that way works.

or, always the waving of the cell phone in hand. trying to get it without directly asking for it. or what about the .. hey can i see your phone, that is a cool model, he then slips in his number and calls his phone so he can get your number. * you think i am making this up.. NOPE, this is a true story! i am a witness!

honestly be a man! say...'hey can i call you and hang out sometime?

but the best one of all, happened one summer with the seller boys (you know the pinnacle, apex, security alarm boys) and a friend. he thought he'd be sly by prefacing the cell phone investigation, with a classic pick-up line.

IN THE MIDDLE OF SUNDAY SCHOOL... he turns around and asks my friend sitting next to me...are you from tenessee? response.. NO! (she was actually from out of state) his response, oh well you are the only ten i see...and felt he then had the upper hand and could go in for the cell phone swipe! ( i believe this could lead to a totally separate post in itself.. pick-up lines.. whats is the best one you've heard?)

i love this video....can i get your number? someday, it'll just be smooth. i mean i guess it is where it all starts!

model ad or announcment

i hope that this doesn't go over board...but i've seen a LOT of my friends get married. i am so happy for all of them. for some of them it is what they have been dreaming of all their life. kinda like the movie, bride wars, they've planned the big day since they were 6 years old.

but over they years i have seen some pretty good invitations. some cheezy other classy. but this one tops it all!

i was really confused if it was an ad for some sort of make-up or like a cologne ad. NOPE... a wedding invitation! i am not sure if this was like a mini scrapbook for each of their friends, neighbors, and former elementary teachers to have of them. or maybe they were just trying to mimic a flyer/brochure. for me, this is too much!

what happened to classy? maybe people just really love the way they look, so they feel the need to share it with everyone they know...oh right and they are getting married.

You've gotta be kidding me!

Ok, so from the beginning of time, we have seen and heard some hilarious stuff. A lot of the experiences we've had, we just look and think, seriously???? Did that REALLY just happen? I thought this crap only happened in movies. I mean, come on, we all have these experiences, where you think, you've gotta be kidding me!!! For example...the ridiculous roommate who rushes into marriage. Example...lets call her Maria. Maria meets George. Maria and George start working out together, and a week later, instead of working out, they're making out in the front room. They start dating right before Christmas break. By mid-January, Maria comes home all twitterpated. You jokingly ask her, "so...are you in love???" "YES I AM!" She responds. Uh...seriously?? They then decide a week later they want to get married. In all the excitement of deciding to wed, they rush to K-Mart, buy a fake nasty looking ring, and start telling everyone they're engaged. Seriously??? You couldn't wait, so you ran to k-mart and bought a fake nasty ring??? The best part about it is, the next day, she tells you she's engaged, and proceeds to say to you, "I wanted to tell you before anyone else told you. And I know...this is going to be very hard on you. Last night when we decided to get married, I thought to myself...this is going to be so hard on her. I'm just one more person getting married before you." YOU'VE GOT TO BE KIDDING ME!!!!